I show faith-based leaders how to be a non-anxious presence, personally and professionally.
Two for Tuesday - Vacation Edition
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Hi Reader, I'm coming off of a week of vacation, so there's no post this week, just recommendations. Thanks! RecommendationsThis week's recommendations are pure family systems theory. I don't know about you, but I can never get enough of this stuff. When Process is the Outcome by Kelly Matthews-Pluta, M.S.W. I often say, it's process not content AND focus on effort, not outcome. This article combines these two as reminder that self-differentiation is a journey, not a destination. How We Use Others to Manage Our Insides - by Kathleen Smith Speaking of process, this article has a long list of examples showing how we use others to manage our own anxiety. I found at least four that I use fairly regularly. How about you? PodcastEpisode 368 of The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast, What Exactly IS a Failure of Nerve – Part 2 of 2 (Rebroadcast), is now available. That's it for this week. Thanks for reading. Peace, Jack P.S. If you are new to Two for Tuesday, you can read previous editions HERE. P.P.S. If this was forwarded to you by a friend, you can subscribe here. |
Jack Shitama
I show faith-based leaders how to be a non-anxious presence, personally and professionally.
Hi Reader, It's the last Tuesday in January (already). This week's post is a masterclass in paradox and playfulness. I hope you find it helpful. Thanks for reading. Paradox and Playfulness Can Help in Sticky Situations Photo: Peteer Read on the Blog Kat Cole faced a dilemma in her job as a Hooters server. Every week a young man came in with his buddies and ordered a plate of 50 wings. When it was time for the check, he complained that they only received 40 and demanded a discount. This...
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Hi Reader, This week's post shares a core element of leading as a non-anxious presence. Let me know what you think. Thanks for reading. A Non-Anxious Leader Is a Lightning Rod (Not a Drain Trap) Photo: Foto-Ruhrgebiet Read on the Blog It’s good to be a lightning rod.* It’s better than being a drain trap. If you’ve ever looked under your sink, you’ve seen a drain trap (also known as a p-trap). The u-shaped bend in the trap holds enough water to create a seal that prevents sewer gases from...